looks like this judging issue seems to be a very debatable topic. I thank everyone for you comments. =) They were indeed constructive ones. Within this post, I should response and of course pointing those points which i have miss.Writing it here will be a better option [i tink] cause i feel the CBOX is pretty small to write my response. Placing it here will be easier for you guys to read:

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" act innocent, emoing, being self centered, overly seeking sympathy the ironic part is that each person has their own way of getting offended" I would agree to this statement that you have made. But don't' you think, behavioural actions is difficult to be judge correctly? How do one know whether the person is genuinely innocent, or acting? What if he/she is truly innocent,and one feel he/she is acting, don't you think he/she is wrongly judged? Or can this "acting" innocent be seen through his/ her actions? And how accurate it is? As for emo-ing, at times, people will tend to be quiet at certain point which could be due to their feelings or just things happening in their lives. If the person is being emo-ing and gets on one's nerve i would agree to it, for the fact it can be quite irritating. I agree on the part of self centered if it is for personal gaining but i see no wrong in being self centered if it serves as a defense move. I would agree that each person have different way to be getting offended even that can be judge on.

"it is just a matter of perspective"
I guess different people have different perspective towards different matter just like this issue here.There is hardly any cases whereby everyone shares the same perspective.


"one wrong comment you made. judging ppl is NEVER fun, and judging is a 2 sided thing. think of it this way, you look at a person who goes to work promptly"
This is the part that I have oversee it,and I of course need to apologise for that statement and change on it. It should being judge on the bad side is never fun, and of course being judge on the good side is not fun, but it brings one's reputation up.

to zhihao and ... :
many times when rumours is being spread the chances of you...being the last to know is very high.
And i believe Wat zhi hao is trying to bring across the statement of "furthermore, better ppl will keep silent... " is being quiet might help in cooling off the rumour in hope that the rumour will dies off, and not further agitate to the situation. And on ... parts he/she feels that defending is a better measure to kill off the rumour [correct me if i am wrong]Thus this clashes between the both of you. As for my stand, i feel both have their pros and cons thus i shall not dwell so much on it, cause i am neutral at this point.

to +.+:
"i dun want to type my name cos u people being not prefect will back stab Am i not right for saying that?" well i am convince on this point, you are absolutely rite.

"i do agree that we cant stop people from judging. Did i say it is wrong in the first place?" erm...Nobody said you were wrong =)

"the owner of this blog say to 'give comment ya but constructive ones" and yes... this is what i did. right?" Ya you are right =)

"my main objective is to simply get across the fact that i think the owner of this blog is contradicting to her own point. Why do i say so? cos she in the blog entry she say "who are we to judge people?" then again she say "people do judge others, it cant be avoided?'"
There is some misunderstanding here, is not i am being contradicting, what i am trying to say here is, even though we do not have the right to judge others, we still do judge. And because it is a in born thing in us, cause it to be totally unavoidable on how others see oneself.

"so what's her point in the first place? opps... she say 'everyone did judge someone, be it base on their looks, their actions, their attitude we all did...it is not a excuse, it is a reason" dun use" i am not prefect "as an excuse to judge or backstab others... it is not a fact but an excuse.. cos it is when u thought that it is okay since everyone judge.. then so can i.. it is already using as an excuse"

Another point which i want to point out is, "being not perfect" is the reason why people judge people. Thus making it un-avoidable.For the fact that if everyone is perfect, what is there to judge?Then there will be no bad and good, cause everyone is good.

Hopefully i have answered to most of your questioning. More comments are welcome =)!

3:22 AM sHaRiLyN LiM

People Judging People.

Another post which i written in my previous blog, which I am bring it forward here. Kindly reminded by ZHI HAO as, we were talking about judging people =) ENJOY!

People judge people.But who are we to judge people?Many times we pick on peoples' bad points and flaunt it out. But did we judge ourselves? No one is perfect in the world,so no one has the right to judge how good or how bad someone is.Let alone talking behind their back.

Judging people is fun.But being judge is never likable.How were u feel if u were judge?definitely very BAD, I never like the feeling of being judged.So why can't we be a bit more sensitive to one another accept someone as who he/she is? Easier said than done we as humans always lack to view this point.

Many times, I see this world as man eat man world. You don't stab my back, soon, i will stab yours. Sort of like 胜者为王，败者为抠。Do we really have to win to be king? What is the point of stabbing people's back when he/she never hurt you in any other way. Even he/she did, if you stab his/her back what makes you different from him/ her.

Or is this the world I must get use to? Is this the world i am suppose to live in after growing up?

I am not perfect too.Everyone is not. But i am not denying that Thoughts of how bad this person is or that person is,never did come across my mind.But just keep it in yourself.Or simply, shut up. If anyone bring it up, just simply, "I dun wish to talk about it." [at times I do talk, but don't really remember much too=P] As for backstabbing, yet to learn it...just kidding.

I am trying accept who he/she is cause it is just one of his/her flaws which in turn can be their good points.Everyone has flaws.As long as we try to close one eye don't u think life will be better?being very very very fussy will take u no where.but to the point where one will be almost friendless.Try to tolerate a bit.Keep some negative comments to yourself,praise people more you will be surrounded by more friends, but never over do it. Cause will sound sarcastic.

Give comments ya but constructive ones that will not hurt people.Give advises in ways to show you care for them. This will help them to improve their flaws maybe they can be a better person.

But why not start doing it by judging yourself, and improve one's character be a better person.Hmmm...How much more to learn, how much more to see? What is a model answer person, and what is not?Hmmm...don't think I can perfect too, there are sure to be times where I talk bad about people too. But when? How? And what is the limit? =(

6:19 AM sHaRiLyN LiM

hm mm..i am just back from a BBQ + Buffet session from my dad's workplace. As most of you would know, hm mm...highly UN-Eco friendly.Due to the many plastic spoons and forks, including the plates were plastic, sad. That was from the buffet.. On the other hand I am brought to surprise that my dad had place a plastic bag just to collect the drink cans. I was indeed surprise he did that. On top of that he bought paper plates instead of plastic for the BBQ. Thanks dad.

But, crushing of the cans were indeed tedious job, my eldest brother kindly took the job, but soon got tired. So he did it in an UN-Eco way, of placing the cans in front of the car and driving over it. Erm, ya..the cans were neatly flatten i agree. But the petrol use is indeed UN-Eco. Ha ha..Sorry... my two brothers are full of weird ideas. I accept the fact, I had a good laugh, and took a picture and a video of it, ha ha. shall post it up soon. When I have the time.

2:28 PM sHaRiLyN LiM

Another article which i read on the newspapaer which I think is a great Idea! It is written in a forum page. It was talk about "adopting a child from a poor family" not really adopting the child, but to provide the child with 3 meals a day. I find it very meaningful and I don't see why it can't work. One just had to feed the child's 3 Meals a day that is all. How much can a child's meal cost? The sense of happiness will sink into you when you see the child happily eating the food you have given him. In years to come, he will remember you as the one who has kindly provided his 3 meals a day when he/she is growing up.

Growing up is a process which is same in many children, but different in many ways. How did you grew up?

3:16 AM sHaRiLyN LiM

as my title state, it is call pen my thoughts. Hmmm...it is early in the morning, what thoughts do I have? Before I go into this blog's objective, I of course wanna thank all the animals who have come in here and leave down your paw prints

Pen my thoughts for today is from today's Straits times 26/1/2008 :Home Section Page 6: video Obscene I / II.

Reading these two articles really bring me back to the past, not that I have watch pornography before, but to the secondary school horror of mine. Not many you would have gone through what I have experience then. But is physical needs so urgent as a human? Singapore is a open society but many are still traditional. How many still has our virginity? And how many had lost it due to the wanting of fun, and lust? I have about 5 Friends around me that have lost their virginity to someone whom they are currently not with. All along to me virginity is something that is precious and I treat it like my own treasure, cause I only have ONE, and if I am going to lose it, it will be gone forever. It is not something i can touch it, but it is something that shows a purity of a unmarried lady.

The newspaper article states that a man repeatedly raped and molested a young girl of age 11years old. He is not her father, but her mum's boyfriend. Don't you think it is so inhuman. Raping the poor girl is already traumatising her, and he even video tape the process! What become of our society? Or has it been like this all along is just that I never knew it all along? Growing up for that girl will indeed be bleak and dull. How long will she take to grow out of that trauma? How long would she take to be herself again? How long would she accept the fact that her virginity has been robbed from her by someone she don't even had feelings for?

Everything seem so wrong here? Or is it part and parcel of growing up? Why not you tell me?

3:10 AM sHaRiLyN LiM

this entry is especially reminded by my god brother: TAT HONG!!!

from his blog entries on the baby he is taking care of.

I personally really envy of babies and toddlers. Not only because they are carefree, but more on how they face life and the world. Observe them, they learn how to speak, how to walk, how to eat and many many things. They never fail to accomplish them. They walk they cry, and crawl up again. Look at adults, many had fall, and never able to had the will power to climb up again. You might say that they are two different matters, but if many of us can be like them to have that will power and not ashamed of falling down, do not care about what others look at us things would be better.

Babies, toddlers comes in as a clean piece of papers like all of us were. But as we grow, our paper gets greyer and greyer because we learn more things, and see the disgusted sight of humans. Many actually learn those actions too. We can never be like babies and infants, for the fact it is a man- eat man world. We have to be stronger and stronger or we will be eaten. Thus all the disgusted actions are categories under "survival skills". How many back stab their friends? How many are really who they are? How many talk bad about others? How many truly wants to be your friend and not out to make use of you?

Honestly, I don't know. This world is so scary, till I want to retreat from it but I can't. I envy those babies and toddlers about their "horror - free" lives, but how long this period going to last. Because seeing all this "UN-human" actions are part and parcel of growing up, it is just a matter of time that they will be expose to all this UN-fairy like tale truth. Just like how I was expose.

How long can innocents last? How much does innocents cost? Can they feed you? The answer is "no" thus many scarfices their innocents for wealth, fame etc. Given to me? I would want my innocents.

But I am robbed of it, cause growing up = losing of innocents. I am force to grow up.

If u were given a chance would you keep your innocents?

1:19 PM sHaRiLyN LiM

Here i will need to apologise to Farewell party main committee...
1) HuiRu
2) Mei Hoon
3) Dacai
4) Sean

and of course to all the seniors...

why?
because, i cannot attend the farewell party, thus unable to bid a proper farewell with you guys. This is the post i would like to write to your.

I believe you guys will start for poking for reasons, why I cant go for it. Cos, dear daddy would not allow. He is afraid of the safety of his girl. His girl who have not turn 18 years old. I believe no matter how old i turn, in his heart I will always be that 8years old girl, who never grow up. The little girl whom he can carry, whom he always showered his love on. And of course the ONLY GIRL who is his ONLY DAUGHTER.

I seriously dont blame him, he is doing all this out of care and concern, i fully understand why he is doing all this. Still I sort of being left out. Many of times family has been the one that brought me out of many funs and of course i miss many of it till i lost count of it.

The girl:
The little girl whom will cry because she cannot attend many events like many girls of her age, no longer cries. She will just shut herself off. This girl no longer cries like she used to. She is numb of being always left out of all the funs, she is used to it le.

each year she grows by a bit. She just turn 17years old not long ago. What will change in her when she turn 18years old?

2:12 AM sHaRiLyN LiM

greeting to humans, animals, non living things,

There are many words i should say in my 1st blog entry for this world...
but i will try my best to keep it short and sweet...

Welcome to this new wordy world of mine =)I apologise to those who had been visiting my Window Live space @ http://sharilynworldofhope.spaces.live.com/ dun attempt to click on it cause it is not open for public view (even though i ask u not to go u will still go). Back to topic, yup, sorry to those who have been coming in to read and out of the blue saw it off the internet world. Due to some personal privacy problem i have officially close that blog.

I welcome everyone coming in to this blog
jUsT aNyOnE...
hUmAnS
AniMaLs
NoN- LiViNg tHiNgS (pls tell me!!)
and simple thing of:
dUn LiKe Me...
dEn DuN ReAd mY blog
iT iS nOt mEaNt fOr u.

Easy to understand?

I also welcome people writing comments for long essays, and i have also attach a cbox by the side of this blog so u can drop anything which you thing you should drop or wanna drop.

So pls, do look forward for the updates in this blog. Hopefully they won't bore you. And of course, Debate in any issues I might bring up in the future, it is absolutely fine with me.

2:00 PM sHaRiLyN LiM